The iconic sex therapist, Dr. Ruth Westheimer, on who made her heart skip a beat.

In 1961, I was on a ski trip in the Catskills, in upstate New York, when my then boyfriend Hans introduced me to Fred Westheimer, the head of a student ski organization.

Hans and I had been sharing the t-bar lift up the mountain all day, [but once I met Fred], I told Hans,

“You know what? I’ll go up the mountain with that short one and meet you there.”

The ski tow at Simpson Memorial Ski Slope, in New York’s Catskill Mountains

I’ve always believed in taking risks; without doing so, you never move forward.

Fred and I talked the whole way to the top, and didn’t stop talking until two o’clock in the morning. The innkeeper told us we had to go to sleep or we couldn’t ski the next day!

Afterward, I called a friend in New York City and said,
“I met the man I’m going to marry.”

A postcard from Grossinger's Catskill Resort Hotel, a popular destination that shuttered in 1986

Fred was intelligent, very good looking, a lover of the outdoors, and a German-Jewish [refugee], like myself.

We wed just months later, raised two wonderful children, and were together for 38 years.

And we skied every weekend.

— as told to The Thick

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Dr. Ruth and Manfred ‘Fred’ Westheimer on their wedding day, photograph courtesy of Dr. Ruth Westheimer